88 Daddy-Daughter Dates!

The following 10 tips comes from a book recommended to me by a pastor friend.  It looks good...gonna download it!  It's called 88 Daddy-Daughter Dates by Rob and Joanna Teigen.  Enjoy!

10 Tips for a Successful Daddy-Daughter Date
 

  1. Have fun—leave your cares behind and just focus on your daughter.
  2. As much as possible keep that Smartphone put away. Don’t try to talk to your daughter and text, answer email, or surf the Web at the same time.
  3. Really listen to your daughter. Don’t be too quick to give your opinion or “fix” her issues. Seek to understand her more than to be understood.
  4. Don’t be afraid to redo or scrap a date that isn’t working. As you know, with kids there are moods involved and different personalities. If you’ve had an awesome time, though, try that date again and again!
  5. BE YOU! You don’t have to pretend to love shopping at the mall. And she doesn’t have to be thrilled about a football game. If the focus is on your time with each other rather than the “entertainment,” it’s all good.
  6. Don’t be overly task-oriented. The goal is to connect with your daughter, not get through every detail in the book.
  7. You’ll get more comfortable with all the material and dates the more you do them.
  8. Set a goal to learn something new about your daughter every time you go out together.
  9. Before you go out on your dates, pray that God will prepare both your hearts for the conversations you’ll have and the memories you’ll create.
  10. Build anticipation. Let your daughter know ahead of time that you’re excited about spending time with her. Let her know it’s a big deal to you.

Why is this important to me? :) 

daddys daughters

What is Hyper-Grace?

Hey friends.  It's rare that I cut and paste an entire article from another site, but this is an exception.  And here is the link to give proper credit to the author.  Although I don't agree with every single article, I agree with most and really like this website, www.gotquestions.org

The subject matter, Hyper-Grace, is coming on strong in so many churches.  I just off the phone with a friend in another state wondering what to do about the tidal wave of Hyper-Grace teachings breaking over the church he loves.  He's being told not to mention the Commandments, not to say the Lord's prayer, stay away from the Old Testament Prophets, etc.  Anyway, here is the article.  The stance is slightly softer than what I'd say (LOL), but good food for thought.

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 Question: "What is hyper-grace?"

Answer: The term hyper-grace has been used to describe a new wave of teaching that emphasizes the grace of God to the exclusion of other vital teachings such as repentance and confession of sin. Hyper-grace teachers maintain that all sin, past, present, and future, has already been forgiven, so there is no need for a believer to ever confess it. Hyper-grace teaching says that, when God looks at us, He sees only a holy and righteous people. The conclusion of hyper-grace teaching is that we are not bound by Jesus’ teaching, even as we are not under the Law; that believers are not responsible for their sin; and that anyone who disagrees is a pharisaical legalist. In short, hyper-grace teachers “pervert the grace of our God into a license for immorality” (Jude 1:4) and flirt with antinomianism.

Jesus’ words to the seven churches in the book of Revelation strongly contradict the idea that Christians never need to repent. To the church at Ephesus, Jesus said, “Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place” (Revelation 2:4). Jesus rebukes five of the seven churches and demands repentance from them (Revelation 2:4, 6, 20; 3:3, 15–19). Far from believers being unaccountable for their sin, they must answer to Jesus for their disobedience (see also 2 Corinthians 5:10).

Preachers of hyper-grace doctrine discount the Old Testament and the Ten Commandments as irrelevant to New Testament believers. They even teach that Jesus’ words spoken before His resurrection are part of the Old Covenant and no longer applicable to born-again believers. But is this true?

In Mark 13:31, Jesus said, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.” Before Jesus ascended into heaven, He promised that the Father would send the Holy Spirit who “will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you” (John 14:26). If Jesus’ words are no longer applicable to believers, why would we need to be reminded of them?

Hyper-grace teaching is a good example of mixing truth with error. An emphasis on the beauty and power of God’s grace is good, but some teachers are neglecting what Paul called the “whole counsel of God” (Acts 20:27). For example, it is true that Christians have been forgiven by God. But that doesn’t mean we never have to confess our sin. James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” If we are to confess our sins to each other, why would we not need to confess them to God, since every sin is ultimately a sin against God (Psalm 51:4)?

Also, 1 John 1:9 gives clear instruction to believers about confessing sin. It begins with the word if: “If we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” This is a cause/effect statement implying that we cannot have the second without the first. As blood-bought children of God, we do not continue to confess our sin in order to be saved from hell. We confess and repent in order to reestablish an intimate relationship with our Father. We are “positionally righteous” but “practically sinful.”

To counter this argument, hyper-grace preachers deny that John’s letters were written to believers. However, 1 John 2:1 begins with this: “My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have an advocate with the Father—Jesus Christ, the Righteous One.” John is clearly writing to believers whom he personally knew. He indicates that his believing friends may indeed sin, and that, when they do, they need to confess it.

Hyper-grace preachers also claim the Holy Spirit will never convict Christians of their sin. Mature Christians should recognize this fallacy right away. Every disciple of Christ has felt the overwhelming conviction of the Holy Spirit when he or she has sinned. Jesus calls the Holy Spirit “the Spirit of Truth” (John 15:26). Truth, by its very definition, will not tolerate anything false. When the Spirit of Truth abides in a believing heart (1 Corinthians 6:19), He brings conviction about anything that is not truth.

In summary, much of what the hyper-grace preachers teach is valid. We are indeed saved by grace, not our works (Ephesians 2:8–9). And God’s grace is marvelous, great, and free (1 Timothy 1:14). However, hyper-grace teaching is out of proportion to the rest of Scripture. Any time one doctrine is emphasized to the exclusion of the rest, we fall into error because we fail to “correctly handle” the Word (2 Timothy 2:15).

Jesus was full of both “grace and truth” (John 1:14). The two are in delicate balance, and a tip to either side can result in a false gospel. We must always compare any new teaching with the “whole counsel of God” and learn to disregard anything that veers even slightly from the truth (1 John 4:1).

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So there you have it...a doctrine that says, "Thou shalt not say thou shalt not!"  I'm also researching...lots of very popular books and preachers here. 

Lord, give us the right balance.  Help us minister the whole counsel of God....

Amen.

Help Lord

I find myself wrestling over some hard realities this morning.  I pray that everything I say below (except the solutions part!) is WRONG, and I'm just up on the wrong side of the bed this week.  What a spiritually tough week!  You ever have one of those?

Friends, only someone with their head in the spiritual sand will refute this: we are losing.  I didn't say "we lost;" I said we are losing.  The battle for the soul of America that is.  (We cannot lose ultimately because Christ is returning and He is Lord!)

Yes there will be pockets of revival and reformation, but we are AT LEAST a generation away from widespread biblical reformation, if it ever comes before the coming of Christ.  I’m not trying to be a “downer,” but the devil pretty much owns:

  • Politics
  • Education
  • Economics
  • Religion (people’s views and worldviews)
  • Social Issues

In other words, most of America would fail the PEERS Worldview Test, or any other tool designed to measure biblical worldview...the application of Truth.

Just this week a lawsuit against the Virginia Marriage Amendment (which defines marriage as between one man and one woman) was heard in a Federal Court in Norfolk.  With Virginia’s new Gov, Lt. Gov. and AG all in support of gay marriage, I don’t have a good feeling about it ultimately.  Nor can I see many victories in courtrooms ahead defending marriage or overturning abortion because those making those decisions aren't thinking biblically, and neither is the country anymore.  Shucks, it’s hard to get CHURCHES to stand with God in these areas.  These issues aren’t political; they are spiritual!  We are past a tipping point.  Our children and even many churches won't declare Jesus is Lord in these areas because they simply don't believe it.

Will we keep preaching Law (what God has commanded) and Gospel (redemption in His Son alone) and fighting for Christ and souls?  Yes.  We love God and people too much to quit.  Plus, we have our commands from Christ and we must obey them.

BUT the hard reality is we are facing a VERY steep decline in Christian thought...even steeper than what brought us that mess at the Grammys.  And I hurt as I consider the enemy’s continual “pulling” at CRCC and churches of a similar mind. 

Oh Lord…protect your flock!  Help us!  Don’t allow the enemy to pull us apart as we fight for You!  Don't allow our adversary to attack the relationships, bodies, and emotions of your people unchecked!  Don't allow paranoia, unforgiveness, a lack of love, or temptation to overrun us!  Forgive us of our sins!  Help us to obey You!

Are there solutions?  Sure!  But to many they are too hard, considered unnecessary, unloving, or don't match a certain political persuasion or worldview framework so they are jettisoned quickly as ridiculous.  With the Holy Spirit's enablement:

  1. Preach the whole Gospel.  Cry out for men to repent.  Help them see their sin before a holy God that they might thirst for righteousness in Christ.
  2. Set a standard.  Live holy; live differently.  Don’t love the world.
  3. Pull your children out of public schools and either home educate based on Scripture or send them to a Worldview Christian School.  The humanist indoctrination and situational traps must stop.  This has become one of the primary reasons we teach biblical stewardship: getting out of debt, saving, etc.
  4. Build family based on God's Word...father led, mother supported, children discipled by parents and pulled as far as possible out of secularism.  Yes I know this isn't current reality for many and might even seem impossible, but this is what we should be shooting for and this biblical ideal should inform our "dating" practices, marriages, and sexual paradigms.
  5. Support God-fearing churches as you preach the Gospel and make disciples.  Good pastors...many of them...are afraid to death of losing members because of preaching the full truth of God's Word.  And that actually is a real possibility.  Yes, that is a flaw in the pastor.  Nevertheless, please encourage leaders to take a stand, with love, and support them when they do. 

Even with all this in place…even on a massive scale…I think we are decades away any widespread change unless the Lord says differently.  But YOU can change, and so can I.  Will you?  I'm going to try.

Help Lord.
 

Understanding the Use of God's Moral Law

I wanted to make sure CRCC and others who follow our ministry are encouraged to understand how we view the use of God's Moral Law.  Below are some links to recent sermons notes, a repost of some wonderful teaching by Ray Comfort and Kirk Cameron, and the book/class we recommend for all our Covenant Members on our actual Vision Triangle.

Enjoy! :)

The Role of the Law

Biblical Examples of Use of the Law

 Loving Others Lawfully

The School of Biblical Evangelism

Or PLEASE read The Book if you cannot take the class.

Edit: And here is a FREE BOOK that is worth a read!

1Ti 1:8-11 ESV - Now we know that the law is good, if one uses it lawfully, (9) understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, (10) the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, (11) in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.

Please forgive me if I haven't been clear here: keeping the Moral Law DOES NOT save us: we are under GRACE.  It's use is about giving us a good foundation to rightly love God and others, and to show sin and the need for men to repent in evangelism.

Amen.